tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post1799931807206676969..comments2023-10-28T13:38:54.384+01:00Comments on *the.lifestyle.artist*: When a guy is 'just not that into you...'the.lifestyle.artisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13031560397478922935noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post-17117614873719510102009-05-25T13:59:53.213+01:002009-05-25T13:59:53.213+01:00ummmm the movie
i think as woman we have this cra...ummmm the movie<br /><br />i think as woman we have this crazy need to want to always be told the he would die for us and that he lves nothing else but us. realistic? never!<br /><br />the on thing im still trying to implement in my relationship is to have my own things going. that way im not sitting at home hoping and wishing that he call me. i have foubd that if i let my life carry on as usual he can see that and i think love me more for the fact that i do get passionate about othere things too. sometimes my boyfriend calls just to hear me talk about all the wierd things that go on in my life. all he does is listen and not that im over talking him (assured by him) but simply because he wants to listen. imagine if all i did was sit around and mope. would that conversation not kill both of us with bordem?Randzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972320155693300115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post-40090882178360682952009-03-03T22:14:00.000+00:002009-03-03T22:14:00.000+00:00Single Gal - if that works for you then that's gre...Single Gal - if that works for you then that's great. The key is to be happy with what you have and just enjoy it. If you sense he doesn't like you enough or he makes you unhappy then only you can make the best decision and walk away ;) <BR/><BR/>My post was based on experience of not knowing a good thing until it was gone. Mostly because i had wanted to move to the next stage of the relationship because i needed assurance or i was feeling insecure. In the end i pushed him through the demands of my own ego.<BR/><BR/>A lot of my research is also based on talking to guys who have been at the other end of this type of situation. They were able to use the label 'girlfriend', but 'love' was not as forthcoming even though they cared about the girl deeply. <BR/><BR/>I also don't see it as 'letting a guy off' ;) lol although i can see why you would say that. People treat you how you train them. If you want the guy to treat you better then its your responsibility to adjust your responses accordingly so that he knows what is acceptable and if he still sticks around... then great! Thats another post i think though.<BR/><BR/>Thx for the feedback, it really helps me understand if i'm getting it right or not ;)the.lifestyle.artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13031560397478922935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post-55044955239030591342009-03-03T21:51:00.000+00:002009-03-03T21:51:00.000+00:00Hmm, I don't think what happened with Jen in the m...Hmm, I don't think what happened with Jen in the movie was very realistic. <BR/>And also, I seem to know almost right away whether I like somebody or not. Your personalities just "click" after a few conversations. So if after six months, he still won't call you his girlfriend, I don't think that has anything to do with society putting pressure on me, I think it has to do with him not liking me enough. I know I've done it--been head over heels for a guy almost immediately and wanting to see him every minute, and then there was the guy who I was like "uh...no, but I'll keep dating you bc there's no one else better at the moment." I don't want to ever be the latter. Usually what I have found, is that if they really like me, they'll want to be with me--I don't need a title. But if they don't like me enough, they don't really care if I leave. I want someone to want me just as much as I want them. So I guess I agree with some of what you wrote...but I don't think we should let guys off that easy either.Single Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11591133077060071306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post-16354201284175445872009-03-03T20:12:00.000+00:002009-03-03T20:12:00.000+00:00I used to do this a lot. Although the guy i was wi...I used to do this a lot. Although the guy i was with loved me too much that he put up with my dramas for 5 years!<BR/><BR/>Now... its hard but i find that with all the work i've done on myself, i'm 98% able to live in the moment. I think its habit, as it gets easier every day. One of the preferences i have in a guy is that he is confident enough in himself to compliment me in this. I will only date a guy who is emotionally mature or on the same level enough that we both learn from each other. I think a lot of women think that they can't learn anything from men... or that because they are the emotionally open ones, this makes them far superior. I disagree. I think we both have a lot to learn from each other. <BR/><BR/>The best formula is to find someone who is equal in self development to you so the relationship you have is balanced in learning/teaching, whereby both of you encourage/inspire each other to grow.<BR/><BR/>Anyway i digress ;) but yes sometimes when i'm feeling a little drained by others i find my mind takes over and starts creating negative situations as to 'why he hasn't called'. Then i realise, laugh and make up a new reason... 'he hasn't called because he likes me too much. he needs to play it cool for a bit so as not to turn me off...' or i just think 'next' hahathe.lifestyle.artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13031560397478922935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-274583065108645128.post-75642621937538782392009-03-03T18:02:00.000+00:002009-03-03T18:02:00.000+00:00This is so so true :) And though I know it... I st...This is so so true :) And though I know it... I still do it sometimes when the guy I am with makes me feel really unsure of myself, which is really stupid since that means I like him a LOT.<BR/>Thanks for the reminder. Perfect timing by the way ;)<BR/>I wonder if you find yourself doing it sometimes too... :)Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17770981832507391820noreply@blogger.com